With a starting point in women’s studies, this paper moves on to approach the club as a place of embodiment for both genders by introducing neo-lacanian insights combined with concepts from Baudrillard. Through interviews with young men taken from a Danish nightclub study we look closer at the risks of losing masculinity, losing sexual opportunity and losing friends, managed by boys that take or have taken drugs. Since masculinity here becomes invested in the fantasy of the drug and the utopian party, these boys can be seen as risking their male position, when the party doesn’t work out as planned.